I often sit and ponder about the changes in my life. I think about how different I am from how I used to be when I was much younger. I have learnt a great deal that continues to help me make better decisions in my present, which brings a certain level of peace to my life that I sorely missed all those years ago.
I remember a time when I would approach relationships with people in a way best described as pitiful. I had little idea what having a relationship with a person even meant. My anxiety and wounds from my past would lead me to think others were out to hurt me in any way that they could, and any issue that would present itself was enough cause for me to end any relationship that would irritate me enough. However, my approach to relationships is different now than before.
With age, I now understand that relationships with people require time, patience, and effort. When applying all three in a manner that a person should, you end up with a connection that is very rewarding. I never understood the importance of maintaining contact with others, as I had the mindset that I could tackle life alone. As I grew older, it became apparent that I could not deny myself relationships with people, as it is part of my basic human needs.
Now that I am thirty, I approach relationships without the rush. I no longer feel like I have to speed through every aspect of my life because when I take my time, the results of my efforts are superior. I can build meaningful connections that have a solid foundation with depth. For the first time, I am finally getting to know the actual person in front of me.
I understand that what we rush never comes out as good as something we take our time with. Only by taking our time can we learn to appreciate the person and the process of connecting with others. There is also a peace and serenity that comes with taking time to build something from the ground up.
Sure, there are times when fear overcomes us. We worry that if we take too long with something, it will be ripped right out of our hands, but this is not always the case, especially if you are taking the time that all parties involved are comfortable with. That is what we must communicate and meet in the middle about. Once we do, we can only go from strength to strength.
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